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Thursday, June 19, 2025

The Power of Dignity, Honor, Respect, and Love

A Personal Mission to Spread Worth

I'd like to share a little about something that has become incredibly important to me: the "dignity, honor, respect, and love" cards I hand out.

The Phrase That Changes Lives

Central to what I do are the song sheets I hand out, and on every single one, you'll find this powerful phrase:

"I am an inspirational human being made in the image of God,

and I am worthy of dignity and honor and respect and love."


This isn't just a catchy line; it's a statement of inherent worth that everyone deserves to embrace.

The concept of being "made in the image of God" is foundational to this belief. As it says in the Hebrew Bible, Genesis 1:27: "So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them." This divine imprint bestows upon every person an intrinsic value. Similarly, Psalm 139:13-14 beautifully expresses this worth: "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well."

I've seen firsthand the impact of this phrase. It's a tool that can be used by anyone facing disrespect, whether from individuals in positions of authority like police officers or nurses, or just from the general public. The New Testament also emphasizes the profound value of each person and the call to treat one another with love and respect. John 13:34-35 says, "A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another." We are all God's handiwork, as Ephesians 2:10 reminds us: "For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do."

Impact on Women in Prostitution

The most profound stories I've heard come from women trapped in prostitution, often to support drug addictions they wish they didn't have. Several women told me they memorized that phrase, and in difficult situations with men who were excessively rude, they would assert their worth. In one day, three different women told me they declared to these men that they were worthy of dignity and respect, and in each case, they either got out of the car on their own initiative or the man let them out. These small cards have become incredibly important in that setting.

A Message for Everyone on the Streets

Beyond that, the cards also serve as a beacon for men and women on the streets who encounter rude individuals. They've started sharing the cards among themselves, offering them to a streetmate who's having a particularly bad day. By sharing this phrase and handing out these business card-sized items, my hope is to spread the message of respect and dignity far and wide.

These videos, originally presented as Facebook Live moments, are very casual, and sometimes the written format doesn't quite capture the full essence, but I hope this blog entry gives you a good sense of the heart behind it all.

You can watch the original video here: https://youtu.be/4W15UFU7gSk

Tuesday, June 17, 2025

Sunday, March 3, 2019, was a day that changed my ministry efforts forever. This is an AI retelling of a day I'll never forget.

A Day That Changed Everything

A Day That Changed Everything

An interactive retelling of a fateful day in March, exploring moments of chaos, grace, and profound human connection on the streets of Philadelphia.

The Morning: An Unassuming Start

The story begins on Sunday, March 3, 2019, a day that started like many others but would soon pivot into the extraordinary. The initial setting is the area around Emerald Street, a place of familiar faces and routine outreach. The narrator describes a sense of normalcy, mingled with an awareness of the area's harsh realities, which he typically navigates with caution.

After a meaningful time at church, he returned, parking on Emerald Street and beginning his work of handing out water and bananas. A simple, yet crucial, decision was made: to walk down Silver Street, a path rarely taken. This choice placed him at the heart of the community, where he reconnected with individuals, just yards away from the street's illicit "commerce." A seemingly random request to talk privately pulled him away from the main crowd—the first moment he later identified as a divine pull from the precipice of danger.

The Shooting: Chaos Erupts

This section allows you to visualize the tense moments described in the story. The diagram below represents the area around Emerald and Silver Streets. When you click the button, an animated sequence will play out the armed robbery and the subsequent gunshots, showing how the scene descended into chaos and how the narrator was suddenly caught in the middle of it.

SILVER STREET
EMERALD STREET
Crowd & Dealer
My Car

A white car arrived, and a man emerged. What followed was an armed robbery of the drug dealer. Soon after, five deafening "booms" echoed through the street canyon. The sounds were so deep they didn't even register as gunfire at first. In the ensuing panic, with people scattering in confusion, the narrator and a woman seeking safety jumped into his car and drove away as police sirens converged on the scene. It was later learned that while a man was tragically killed nearby that day, it happened hours later; the five shots he heard had, miraculously, hit no one.

A Gift of Grace: The Orchid

In the tense aftermath of the shooting, while warning others to stay away from Emerald street, a moment of unexpected beauty occurred. These small gestures of humanity, found amidst turmoil, are central themes of the story. They represent hope and connection when it's needed most.

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The Purple Orchid

An older woman, named after a Saint, looked at him with a deep smile. From her cart of worldly belongings, she pulled out a purple planted orchid and gave it to him as a gift, along with a hug. A simple, profound gesture of gratitude and peace.

The Encounter: A Cry in the Rain

As the narrator paused to process the day's events, a heavy drizzle began to fall. This part of the story introduces a pivotal new character and shifts from external chaos to internal, personal tragedy. It is a raw and vulnerable moment of human connection born from desperation.

He saw a young woman, 'Rose', walking towards the very street he had just fled. He called out to warn her. She asked for water, and as she approached his car, her story poured out along with the rain and her tears. She had just escaped a sexual assault, the latest trauma in a life defined by unimaginable pain: abandoned as a baby, abused by family, and trapped in addiction.

“I’m so sick of this! I want my life back! I'm a Mom! I love my children! No one understands how horrible my life has been!”

In that moment on Lehigh Avenue, soaked by the rain, two lives intersected. Her cry for help was not for money or material things, but for something far more fundamental: safety, dignity, and love.

A Symbol of Trust: The Bracelet

The encounter with Rose culminates in an act of profound trust and adoption. Having shared the depths of her pain, Rose shifts the conversation, acknowledging that she has been watching the "Banana Man" for months and recognized the genuine care in his actions. This leads to the story's most powerful and unexpected climax.

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The Beaded Bracelet

"This is my favorite bracelet. Will you please wear it and be my Dad?" ... "I don't want any money from you. I don't want tricks. I just want you to be my Dad and for you to love me like a daughter."

With the grace of a sacred ceremony, Rose slipped a purple beaded bracelet from her wrist to his. It was not just a gift, but a symbol of a new bond, a request for a father's love in a life that had known none. In the falling rain, a new family was formed, built on a foundation of shared vulnerability and a promise of unwavering care.

Reflection: The Day's Emotional Arc

The day was a microcosm of life itself—a journey through fear, relief, despair, and finally, profound, unearned grace. This chart visualizes the emotional rollercoaster of those four hours, tracking the narrator's state from the cautious normalcy of the morning to the awe-inspiring connection at the end of the day. It provides a visual summary of how quickly life can pivot from one extreme to another.

In just a few hours, the narrator had been shielded from a shooting, gifted an orchid by a saintly woman, adopted into fatherhood by a soul in deep pain, and given a bracelet as a seal of that bond. It was, as he concludes, "quite a day," one that reshaped his understanding of ministry, family, and the enduring power of love in the darkest of places.

Interactive narrative created based on the blog post "A Day That Changed My Ministry."

Saturday, June 14, 2025

The Reckless Driver: An American Allegory

 Chapter One: The Grand Unveiling

The air in the sprawling Republican family estate buzzed with an almost palpable hope, a shimmering possibility hanging over the annual Election Day reunion. But this year, it felt different – grander, more significant. It wasn't just a gathering; it was a revelation, a gift. Don, the undisputed patriarch of the Republican family, stood beaming, almost radiating, beside the newest addition to the family garage: a gleaming, midnight-blue sedan. Its lines were impossibly sleek, its chrome trim catching the late afternoon sun like a blinding promise. This was no ordinary car. This was the Democracy. It was a collective gift, purchased and presented by the entire extended family – the staunch, traditional Republicans (Don's immediate kin), and extending to the often-skeptical, forward-looking Democrats and even the quirky, quiet Independents, many of whom affectionately, if sometimes begrudgingly, referred to him as "Uncle Don."

"She's a beauty, isn't she?" Don boomed, his voice echoing in the garage, reverberating with proprietary pride as he patted the hood with a possessive slap. "Never seen a finer car in my life! She’s magnificent!"

Aunt Karen, a venerable Republican matriarch and Don's trusted confidante, offered a warm, almost maternal smile. He deserves this, she thought, a genuine wave of affection washing over her. He's always talked about driving America forward, about making things great again. This is his chance. This car… it’s a symbol of our faith in him, and his leadership of our family.

Cousin David, a Democrat with a penchant for spirited, often pointed, debate and a history of challenging Don's more outlandish ideas, exchanged a cautious, almost imperceptible glance with Aunt Susan, a soft-spoken Independent. Both held their breaths. Well, he wanted the keys badly enough, didn't he? David mused, a prickle of unease already starting in his gut. Let's just hope he remembers how to share the road. This isn't a bumper car in an amusement park.

The keys, heavy and significant, were presented on a velvet cushion. Don snatched them up, jingling them with a triumphant flourish. The air crackled with anticipation. The Democracy awaited.

Chapter Two: The Unspoken Fears

The first few weeks were, if not a dream, then a well-managed illusion. Don, behind the wheel of the Democracy, seemed utterly invigorated, almost transformed. He drove with a flourish, waving expansively to passersby, the car humming smoothly, a low, reassuring purr. The extended family exhaled, a collective sigh of relief. Maybe we were wrong to worry, many thought.

But then, a subtle, almost imperceptible shift began. A little too fast around a sharp corner. A blatant disregard for a posted speed limit. A near-miss that made a bystander jump back onto the curb. The hum of the engine began to sound less like a purr and more like an impatient growl.

One sweltering afternoon, David watched from his porch as Don, instead of navigating the gentle curve of Oak Street, cut diagonally across Mrs. Henderson’s prize-winning rose garden, narrowly missing her antique birdbath. "Woah, Don!" he muttered, a bitter, metallic taste rising in his mouth, a knot tightening in his stomach. "Slow down, man! That’s someone’s property!"

Later that week, at the obligatory family barbecue, the casual chatter around the sizzling grill wasn’t about Don’s newfound joy or the beauty of the Democracy, but his increasingly reckless driving. The casual complaints grew sharper, more urgent.

"He cut me off on Elm Street!" exclaimed Aunt Susan, her voice tight with a mixture of irritation and genuine fear. Her usually calm hands gestured wildly. "Just swerved right in front of me, no signal! I almost hit a mailbox!"

"Now, now, he's just getting used to it," Aunt Karen interjected, her voice a little too quick, a little too loud. Though she offered a placating smile, a distinct flicker of worry, cold and sharp, crossed her usually serene face. "It's a powerful car, the Democracy. Takes some getting used to. He’s a strong driver." He’ll settle down, she silently pleaded to herself, he has to. He's our patriarch.

But as weeks bled into months, "getting used to it" became "dangerous." Don started ignoring traffic lights, dismissing them as "suggestions." He began driving on the wrong side of the road for "efficiency," snarling at oncoming traffic, convinced that they were in his way. On one truly terrifying occasion, he attempted to drive the Democracy through a crowded park during a children's fair, scattering picnickers and sending parents scrambling to snatch their children from the path of the speeding vehicle. The joyous screams of children turned to cries of terror.

The Democrats and Independents held impromptu, hushed meetings, their voices growing louder, more frantic with each passing day. The air around them crackled with unspoken fears that were rapidly becoming explicit accusations.

"He's going to crash it!" David exclaimed during one such clandestine gathering in his dimly lit living room, pacing a frantic groove into his worn carpet. "He’s going to crash the Democracy! And we’re all in it! What are we going to do? Are we just going to sit here and watch him destroy it?" His fists clenched, helpless rage burning in his eyes.

Aunt Susan wrung her hands, her face pale. "We have to take the keys, David. Before it's too late. Before he takes us all down with him, dragging our shared future into the ditch. There will be nothing left."

Their desperate pleas, however, seemed to fall on stubbornly deaf ears when they tentatively approached Don's immediate Republican family, his staunch, unyielding inner circle.

"He's our patriarch, our Don," Aunt Karen said, her brow deeply furrowed, a wall of defensiveness rising around her. "He means well. He just has... a unique driving style. He’s taking us in a new direction."

"Unique driving style?" David’s voice rose, edged with incredulity and despair. "He's about to drive the Democracy, our Democracy, off a cliff! A sheer, jagged cliff! Can't you see that, Aunt Karen? Are you blind?"

She sighed, a deep, shuddering exhalation, and looked away, her gaze fixed on a distant, innocuous spot on the wall. It's true, he’s been erratic, she thought, a cold, creeping dread seeping into her very bones. He’s been… unhinged. But to take the keys from the patriarch? To admit we made a mistake in trusting him? To publicly rebuke him? What would that say about us? About our family? About our judgment? It would be an admission of failure. The thought was a searing brand, unbearable to contemplate. And so, the car continued its terrifying trajectory.

Chapter Three: The Intervention

The cliff loomed. Not a metaphorical cliff this time, but a stark, terrifying reality, built from ignored warnings, brazen disregard for safety, and escalating, unhinged recklessness. The Democracy, once a gleaming symbol of unity and hopeful progress, now careened wildly, tires squealing in protest, the engine sputtering and straining from abuse, sounding like a dying animal. The beautiful midnight-blue paint was now streaked with dirt and fear.

Don, behind the wheel, looked less thrilled and more… possessed. His eyes were fixed on some distant, unseen horizon, a fixed, unblinking stare that saw nothing but his own warped vision. He was utterly oblivious to the raw terror of his passengers – the silent majority of the family, Democrats, Independents, and even a few disquieted, pale-faced Republicans who had finally joined the panicked, desperate chorus.

"He's going to do it," David whispered, his voice hoarse, almost lost in the rising roar of the wind. He pressed himself further into the passenger door, his knuckles white against the armrest. "He's going to drive us over." He closed his eyes, bracing for impact, the smell of burning rubber filling the air.

Aunt Karen, seated directly behind Don, stared at the back of his head, seeing not her beloved, if eccentric, patriarch, but a force of destruction. Her heart pounded, a frantic, deafening drumbeat against her ribs. She saw the cliff edge now, stark and terrifyingly close, a jagged maw waiting to swallow them whole. He really will do it, she realized with a sickening, gut-wrenching jolt. He won't stop. He can't stop. And if he goes, the Democracy goes. And we go with it. All of us.

A desperate, furious monologue played out in her mind, a brutal battle between ingrained loyalty and the primal instinct for survival. How did we let it get this far? Her thoughts screamed. We gave him the keys. We stood by. We defended him, even when our own instincts screamed otherwise. Was it blind pride? Sheer cowardice? A misguided, suffocating sense of family duty? But this isn't just about Don anymore. This is about the Democracy. Our shared future. If it's destroyed, what will be left? Just a wreck. Broken pieces. A wasteland.

Her hand trembled violently as she reached forward, hovering inches from the ignition. Her fingers brushed the cool plastic of the keys, an electric shock running through her arm. Every instinct, every fiber of her being, screamed at her to act. Every part of her urged her to save the beautiful car, to save their shared future from the man she had once so proudly supported.

A sharp, almost involuntary gasp escaped Aunt Karen’s lips as, with a surge of desperate resolve, she snatched the keys from the ignition. The engine of the Democracy coughed, a strangled, choking sound, sputtered once, and then fell into an abrupt, profound silence. The sudden quiet was deafening, broken only by the roar of the wind at the cliff edge and the ear-splitting screech of tires as Don, utterly surprised and disoriented by the abrupt halt, slammed his foot on the brake.

The car skidded to a violent, juddering stop mere feet – inches – from the precipice, a shower of loose gravel spraying over the edge into the abyss. The scent of burnt rubber hung acrid in the air.

Don whipped around, his face a mask of furious, disbelieving indignation, contorted in a grotesque snarl. "Karen! What in the blazes are you doing?!" he roared, his voice shaking the very frame of the car, vibrating with raw fury. "I was almost there! I was almost at the… the destination!"

David, unbuckling his seatbelt with shaking, numb hands, twisted in his seat to face his patriarch, his own anger finally eclipsing his fear. "Destination?! Don, you were about to drive us all off a cliff! This isn't just your car! It's the Democracy! It belongs to all of us! Every single one of us!"

Don's eyes narrowed, a dangerous, almost insane glint in their depths. "It was my car! You all gave it to me! And I know best how to drive it! You don't trust me, do you? None of you ever really did! You’re all against me!" He lunged for the keys, but Aunt Karen held them tight, her knuckles white with strain, her grip unyielding.

"We did trust you, Don," Aunt Karen said, her voice surprisingly steady despite the tremor that still ran through her hands, her gaze unwavering. "But you’ve proven yourself reckless. You’ve ignored the signs, you’ve endangered everyone in this car. This isn't about trust anymore, Don. It’s about survival. It's about saving what we have left."

From the back seats, the murmurs began to rise, growing into a unified chorus. Cousin Sarah, a previously quiet Independent, found her voice, small but firm. "She's right, Don. You scared us. You scared all of us. You almost killed us."

Don looked around, his gaze darting from one face to another, searching for sympathy, for complicity. But he saw not just fear, but a dawning resolve in their eyes. The Democrats, who had always been vocal, now had the support of the Independents, and, crucially, a growing number of the Republicans, their faces etched with a complex mixture of profound relief and deep-seated shame. They had been silent for too long.

Aunt Karen stood her ground, solid and unmoving, the keys clutched in her hand like a sacred, reclaimed artifact. "We love you, Don," she said, her voice softening slightly, a flicker of genuine sadness in her eyes, though her resolve remained firm as granite. "But the Democracy is too important. It's our collective future. We have to make sure it's driven safely, responsibly, for everyone. Not just for one person’s whim."

The standoff hung heavy in the air, a pivotal, agonizing moment in the family's tumultuous history. The Democracy, once gleaming with hope and promise, now sat precariously, silent and scarred, but for the soft creak of settling metal. The immediate danger had mercifully passed, but the real work, the hard conversations, the painful reckoning, had only just begun.

Chapter Four: The Path Forward

The immediate aftermath was chaotic, thick with raw emotion and lingering fear. Don, his face a thundercloud of bruised ego and incandescent fury, eventually stormed out of the car, slamming the door with a reverberating clang that echoed the anger in his heart. He paced the very edge of the cliff, muttering fiercely to himself, his frustration a palpable, suffocating cloud around him. He kicked at loose rocks, sending them tumbling into the abyss, a futile expression of his powerlessness.

Aunt Karen, her legs still trembling, carefully got out of the car, still clutching the keys as if they might vanish. She looked first at the car, then at the gaping maw of the ravine below, a dark, hungry void. A profound, shuddering sigh of relief escaped her lips, a sound that seemed to carry the weight of the entire family's escape. They had pulled back from the brink. They were alive.

David joined her, placing a hand gently, supportively, on her shoulder. "You did it, Aunt Karen," he said, his voice thick with emotion, tinged with a deep, almost reverent respect. "You saved us. You saved the Democracy."

She shook her head, her gaze sweeping over the diverse faces of the family members now cautiously emerging from the car, their own eyes wide with fear and relief. "No, David. We all saved us. It took all of us realizing the truth, and me, finally, having the courage to act. But this isn't over. This is just the beginning."

The extended family gathered slowly around the Democracy, a solemn assembly framed by the terrifying backdrop of the cliff. The mood was a strange, delicate mix of profound relief, lingering trepidation, and a simmering tension – the kind that precedes necessary, painful conversations.

"So, what now?" Aunt Susan, the Independent, asked, her voice quiet but firm, breaking the hushed silence. "Who drives the Democracy?"

Aunt Karen turned, her gaze falling upon Mitch, a quiet but dependable Republican cousin who had always been Don's second-in-command, a loyal but pragmatic shadow. He was often overshadowed by Don's bombast, but he was known for his steady hand and adherence to the family's traditional rules. Mitch stood slightly to the side, his expression unreadable, but his presence a steady anchor.

"For now, Mitch drives," Aunt Karen declared, her voice resonating with authority. She extended the keys towards him. "He's always been prepared. He understands the rules of the road, and he values the safety of everyone in the car."

Mitch, surprised but resolute, stepped forward and accepted the keys, his grip firm. He nodded, a silent acknowledgment of the weighty responsibility.

"And if Mitch isn't available," Aunt Karen continued, her eyes scanning the crowd, "then we turn to Speaker John, the head of the Family Council. He's next in line. We need clear succession, clear rules, so no one person can ever drive us to the brink again." Speaker John, a shrewd and experienced Democrat known for his ability to corral disparate family factions, gave a solemn nod, acknowledging the gravity of her words and the shift in power.

The discussions that followed were long, difficult, and often intensely heated. They argued about the new speed limits, about the ultimate direction of the Democracy, about who would be allowed to sit in the driver's seat and for how long, and what safety mechanisms would be put in place. There were moments when it seemed they would never agree, when the fragile peace would shatter. But beneath the disagreements, there was a newfound, desperate understanding that the Democracy was a shared possession, a precious and fragile vehicle that required constant care, collective wisdom, and mutual respect.

Don remained aloof for a time, sulking on the sidelines, occasionally shouting insults or pronouncements from a distance. But as the family began to outline new protocols, new ways of ensuring safety and shared governance, a flicker of something new appeared in his eyes – perhaps grudging respect for their resolve, perhaps a dawning realization that the Democracy was indeed bigger than any one driver, bigger even than himself.

The road ahead for the family, and for the Democracy itself, would undoubtedly be challenging. There would be disagreements, bumps, and perhaps even more moments of crisis. But for the first time in a long time, the family stood together, united by the shared experience of almost losing everything, and by a renewed, fierce commitment to protect the precious Democracy they had almost allowed to be driven over a cliff. The engine, silent for now, awaited the collective will to start it anew, and drive it forward, together.